We tend to hide scars as imperfections. This is in error, because scars come from conflict, and conflict gives birth to growth.Scars are evidence of the willingness to engage the battle without backing down. Scars are a visible statement that says:I am willing to engage, and I am committed to survival.I will not go quietly.
Stage one, we see life in us/them terms. When the other doesn’t do what we like, we want them to change so that we can be happy. Not very effective life strategy, for sure. Stage two, we realize the we are inextricably intertwined with the events of our lives, and the outcome depends on the meaning we attach to the event. Stage three…we realize that, as stage two suggests, we must blend with the situation, but there also exists the…