“The world is a hostile place”
“You’ve gotta get yours before somebody else does”
“I hate mean people”
Whatever song your listening to, you can always change the channel. Even so, we have a tendency to bitch and complain about the song playing, and don’t take notice that its because that’s the channel we’re tuned to.
We will never hear the right music until we change our channel.
Anxiety abounds when we compare our successes and failures to others’. Our culture has indoctrinated us into this mindset, and advertising pulverizes us with the message “You’re not good enough”. Let’s not forget that Grandma Moses, renowned American folk artist, began her painting career at 78. All of Nature happens in its correct time, and we are no exception, for we ARE Nature.
You are not late, and you’re not a loser.
You’re Running a solitary race; the race of One.
It is common for us to tally our wins and our losses, our conquests and defeats, and it seems equally common to attribute our negatives as the result of external forces…external sources. But what is your reality REALLY? It is your interpretation…purely your own…of stimuli from life events so that you can categorize and make sense… in our own way…of the meaning of our life. We all are prone to a colossal error though; which is that our interpretation is a statement of reality, in fact it IS reality. We rarely if ever question the voracity of our interpretation itself. We are not who we are because of the sum of all of our experiences; we are who we are because of the sum of the INTERPRETATIONS of all of our experiences. Clearly, it would seem obvious that an analysis of our interpretations would bear more fruit in our quest for a meaningful life…than our cries of injustice, over which we have no control.
What happens to us, happens. It may very well have a reason uniquely ours. This doesn’t necessarily infer that there is an otherworldly Being who decides that reason, but just as there is a reason acorns sprout and leaves eventually wither and die, there is a reason…It is a process. The meaning we give to that process however, if we are brave enough to look, will determine if it was a blessing…or a curse.
And will most definitely influence the processes to come…
If I work hard enough I’ll get there. If I earn that college degree, I’ll have my dream job. I have to be careful to do whats right…I don’t want to fuck up. God knows, if my life is shitty, it’s because I fucked up somewhere. It’s all my fault, right? After all…I am the one in control, right?…
Nothing needs to be added
Nothing needs to be taken away
Nothing needs to be changed
Hang on to your perfect imperfection… we’re counting on it.
When awakened by the “a ha” moment, we are aware of something that, just a moment ago, we weren’t conscious of. We didn’t need to make it happen, in fact we couldn’t have made it happen…like the automatic laugh at the end of the funny cat video. When we become aware that the object and the observation co-arise, we begin to let go of the need for control. We begin to see that it was never out of control, and right on time.
That’s called Transcendence.
You ARE the funny cat video.
Your body is literally made of stardust. The fact that it made it’s way to this place and time, just in time to be part of you, is miraculous.
You are perfect just the way you are, just as much
as anything in the cosmos. In fact, you ARE the cosmos.
you’ve already survived Hell fire.
And you’re still here.
We tend to hide scars as imperfections. This is in error, because scars come from conflict, and conflict gives birth to growth.
Scars are evidence of the willingness to engage the battle without backing down. Scars are a visible statement that says:
I am willing to engage, and I am committed to survival.
I will not go quietly.
Stage one, we see life in us/them terms. When the other doesn’t do what we like, we want them to change so that we can be happy. Not very effective life strategy, for sure.
Stage two, we realize the we are inextricably intertwined with the events of our lives, and the outcome depends on the meaning we attach to the event.
Stage three…we realize that, as stage two suggests, we must blend with the situation, but there also exists the possibility that the situation/person/event is really a reflection of ourselves, calling us to self reflect.
Stage four…knowing that both, and neither, are true.